08-20-2005, 07:54 AM
Gemini, are you asian? Just wondering, because I know that with asian parents, it's hard to go up against them. Most asians I know grew up with the mentality of always obeying the parents, take care of the family, and yeah, who you go out with needs the parents blessings. That can be tough, especially since it sounds like you do care about the business and the family.
The way I handled my parents was to have a long heart to heart talk and no matter what they said, I did not change my mind about what I wanted and I kept bringing up valid reasons to explain to them my decisions. It took forever and I even cried a lot.. I think the crying was what finally did it, because my dad realized how much I wanted what I wanted & that he was making me miserable. In the end, I'm sure your dad loves you and only wants what's best for you. So if you stick to what you want & don't give up, maybe he'll come around. It's not like you have to choose one thing.. I hope you can do what you want & have your dad's approval.
The way I handled my parents was to have a long heart to heart talk and no matter what they said, I did not change my mind about what I wanted and I kept bringing up valid reasons to explain to them my decisions. It took forever and I even cried a lot.. I think the crying was what finally did it, because my dad realized how much I wanted what I wanted & that he was making me miserable. In the end, I'm sure your dad loves you and only wants what's best for you. So if you stick to what you want & don't give up, maybe he'll come around. It's not like you have to choose one thing.. I hope you can do what you want & have your dad's approval.