07-11-2005, 02:39 AM
That's tough to hear Zag. I feel sorry for you.
I might have some advice that can save you a sesion or two. Some advice they will give you is scheduel quality time. Pick a day/night in the week every week and do things together without your kid(s). Make it a point to do it EVERY week. Go to diner, go dancing, go to a movie, as long as its just the two of you. I almost guarantee that the counselor will give the same advice. You seem like someone who can express themselfs just fine and don't need a counselor for that. Try to find if that spark is still there. If its not then stop trying. Don't stay together just for the kid(s) cause they notice and it will do more damage than good (but I'm sure you already know that). I'll stop now since these are always more complex situations than people on the outside know but my experience is counselors always give this advice.
I might have some advice that can save you a sesion or two. Some advice they will give you is scheduel quality time. Pick a day/night in the week every week and do things together without your kid(s). Make it a point to do it EVERY week. Go to diner, go dancing, go to a movie, as long as its just the two of you. I almost guarantee that the counselor will give the same advice. You seem like someone who can express themselfs just fine and don't need a counselor for that. Try to find if that spark is still there. If its not then stop trying. Don't stay together just for the kid(s) cause they notice and it will do more damage than good (but I'm sure you already know that). I'll stop now since these are always more complex situations than people on the outside know but my experience is counselors always give this advice.