crappy days

[onizuka17711]

onizuka... I realize that you have the best of intentions with your advice but I ask you politely to shut the fuck up. It's true that my wife and I have an open relationship and I have had sex with women other than her since we were married almost nine years ago. It's also a fact that if this does play a factor in the current problem that it's a pathetically small part of the overall problem we're having.
There is a reason we're looking to go to a professional to help us deal with our problems. A professional will look at all the layers of what the problem between us is before even suggesting some sort of solution. To just step up and start offering advice on our relationship after hearing some small part is the height of hubris.

To everyone else, thanks for the support. The fact that both of us are willing to work out what differences we have gives me hope. I'm going to be sad to see that big empty spot on my shelves but it will be worth it if it strengthens my relationship with my wife.

You asked for advice. I took what information I know about the two of you, and tried to help . I cannot even understand how hard your situation must be for you, so sure, I'll shut up. But please realize that you asked for help; If you don't want it, don't ask. I was only trying to help; simple as that.