08-18-2004, 12:16 PM
Easy one first... my mistress just turned 31... same age as my wife.
In no particular order here are the rules:
Both of us reserve the right to close our relationship for any reason if we feel there is any danger to our relationship.
We both have veto power over the others choice of partners (I haven't used this and she's only used it once so far).
We should keep our encounters fairly discreet. This means no making out in front of the world at a party. I got in trouble once when I had a different definition of discreet... I thought that going into the closet with the hostess wouldn't be noticed... I was wrong... I was in trouble for a while...
Oh yeah... this should have been rule number one but it's so obvious that I skipped it. Both of us will ALWAYS use a condom when having sex with other people. STDs are not something to take a chance with.
We are to do our best not to let time with our lovers interfere with our time together. The marriage comes first. If we start looking forward to time with our lovers more than our spouse then something has gone wrong and the relationship should be closed again.
It's natural to have some jealous feelings. Acknowledge them and let your spouse know what you're feeling. Communication is the most important part of any relationship open or closed.
Don't ever deny our marriage just to get someone in the sack. It's unfair to your lover and your spouse. Your lover should know that there is no chance of something more permanent developing.
I think there are one or two minor rules I may have left out but those are the important ones. I can't stress the importance of communication and openness in a relationship. Without those, ANY relationship is going to have hard times.
In no particular order here are the rules:
Both of us reserve the right to close our relationship for any reason if we feel there is any danger to our relationship.
We both have veto power over the others choice of partners (I haven't used this and she's only used it once so far).
We should keep our encounters fairly discreet. This means no making out in front of the world at a party. I got in trouble once when I had a different definition of discreet... I thought that going into the closet with the hostess wouldn't be noticed... I was wrong... I was in trouble for a while...
Oh yeah... this should have been rule number one but it's so obvious that I skipped it. Both of us will ALWAYS use a condom when having sex with other people. STDs are not something to take a chance with.
We are to do our best not to let time with our lovers interfere with our time together. The marriage comes first. If we start looking forward to time with our lovers more than our spouse then something has gone wrong and the relationship should be closed again.
It's natural to have some jealous feelings. Acknowledge them and let your spouse know what you're feeling. Communication is the most important part of any relationship open or closed.
Don't ever deny our marriage just to get someone in the sack. It's unfair to your lover and your spouse. Your lover should know that there is no chance of something more permanent developing.
I think there are one or two minor rules I may have left out but those are the important ones. I can't stress the importance of communication and openness in a relationship. Without those, ANY relationship is going to have hard times.
Gullible isn't in the dictionary.