08-17-2004, 04:03 PM
Quote:Originally posted by Nina182B
Hey Zagatto, has your daughter met your mistress? She's around 4 years old, right? I've never met anyone in an open relationship before and your story's very fascinating. Does your wife know who she is too? Have they met? I'm glad you and your wife are happy and are so open with each other. It must take a lot of trust to be able to do something like that and just like any relationship, a lot of work to keep it together.
My daughter is just a little over two (born April 2002) and she has met my mistress. Last month my mistress spent a few nights here hanging out before we went on our big road trip. It was pretty funny because Katina called her "gramma" while she was here. The weekend before that my mother-in-law stayed here and the weekend before that my mom stayed here. So I guess that Katina calls any woman that spends the weekend here "gramma".
As for my wife knowing, it was my wife who let me know my mistress was in an open marriage. From there things just took off between the pair of us.
It does take a fair amount of work and a LOT of trust to make the relationship work. There was one time when I got a bit jealous of one of my wife's lovers because of all the time the two of them were spending together so we closed the relationship for a while to work on our relationship a bit more. She's made the same request of me in the past when troubles developed between the pair of us.
I can't stress enough how important communication is. I've seen a few open relationships explode when one person started keeping secrets about their rendezvous. Speaking of other couples, it helps knowing a few other people who are also in open marriages to be able to talk things over with and have a sympathetic ear when it's needed.
I've started rambling again... once I get rolling on the subject I find it so easy to keep on going.
Any more questions?
Gullible isn't in the dictionary.