04-29-2004, 08:53 PM
Wow...
My wife actually encourages me to have friendships with other women. It's weird to know that open marriages are typically looked down upon but that within my group of friends it's quite common.
The one thing I have to agree with that's been said is that you absolutely have to keep honest and open with your wife. Whenever you feel that you have to hide something from her, be it another woman who is your friend, sneaking a drink when she's not around, or even ordering a whack of anime then there is a problem with your relationship. Your spouse should not be your keeper. If there is something that you want to do but she doesn't want you to do it then you need to work out some sort of compromise between the two of you. This requires constant communication and total respect for each other.
I will say that there are no hard and fast rules that apply to all marriages. Some people are comfortable with their spouses having friends of the opposite gender while others aren't. Having people tell you what they prefer in a forum will only tell you what sort of options there are. What you decide is entirely up to you and your wife.
My wife actually encourages me to have friendships with other women. It's weird to know that open marriages are typically looked down upon but that within my group of friends it's quite common.
The one thing I have to agree with that's been said is that you absolutely have to keep honest and open with your wife. Whenever you feel that you have to hide something from her, be it another woman who is your friend, sneaking a drink when she's not around, or even ordering a whack of anime then there is a problem with your relationship. Your spouse should not be your keeper. If there is something that you want to do but she doesn't want you to do it then you need to work out some sort of compromise between the two of you. This requires constant communication and total respect for each other.
I will say that there are no hard and fast rules that apply to all marriages. Some people are comfortable with their spouses having friends of the opposite gender while others aren't. Having people tell you what they prefer in a forum will only tell you what sort of options there are. What you decide is entirely up to you and your wife.
Gullible isn't in the dictionary.