08-18-2005, 01:40 PM
Gemini - Give your dad some time, Im a Dad whos having some problems with my 20 year old son, who dropped out of college, sits around, plays games all day and doesnt want a job- I have my own way of doing things and have lost my temper with him most recently and threatened to throw him out - my brother in law told me yesterday he just threw his son out of the house because he was having the same problem , and he wishes he didnt -- sometimes when we burn our bridges its tough to go back , and things can never be the same - Im not going to throw him out, Im going to work on my patience and take a step backwards and try and work this out - I love him , and Im betting your Dad loves you very much - and yes it is hard to see things threw someone elses eyes-- give him some room and give yourself some room , its tough for people to change once theyve been that way most of their lives - Maybe take him out to lunch and talk about some of the wonderfull times you had with him when you were a kid , camping, fishing - what ever he did that made you happy when you were little and tell him how much you love him -- he will enjoy that as much as you do , I did this with my dad recently and it brough us alot closer- just something to think about .