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Having said that I think you should follow Nina's advice Gemini. She comes from a similar background and knows what it's like to be in your shoes.

I agree too. My advice is probably to hard-edged for me to seriously give out. I'm not saying I wouldn't follow my own advice, but that is the problem with it; it is me and I don't give a damn what someone thinks if they are standing between me and a goal (which is probably wrong of me anyway). Nina seems to have very similar circumstances surrounding the issue so her advice does seem the most viable for your situation...but if it don't work wage war till your side and dust are all that is left.