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[Andromeda18_]

I feel like telling you something along the lines of what Cidien told you. If I were you I wouldn't really care if I would end up being disrespectful or not. It's my life, my future, and I'll live it the way I want without letting anyone get in the way even if it meant breaking up with my family. On the other hand, I'm not the type to sit around all day without studying or working and living off my parents. In my opinion that's not living one's life, that's not being independent. I hope you don't take this the wrong way puzzleguy but if I had a son like yours I wouldn't be patient, that's usually what spoils them. I'd certainly take some drastic measures. Even if I didn't throw him out I'd stop feeding him and paying for any of his expenses. He certainly would have to get a job if he wanted to eat. I don't condone something that I would never do, and I'm too proudful to behave like that.

Having said that I think you should follow Nina's advice Gemini. She comes from a similar background and knows what it's like to be in your shoes. I believe you should try doing things that way and resort to drastic measures only if it didn't work. However what most of the advices here have in common is that they all state you must stand up to your father, one way or another, and you must find the courage to do so. You have to rise above your upbringing.

Please, just don't allow anybody to separate you from your boyfriend. I've seen that happen far to many times and it's always the saddest thing.