Who are you?!?!

[ladysilverice]

In my opinion those people are weak, psychologically weak. Otherwise they'd be able to put up a fight. That obviously doesn't justify the abusers actions but it does mean that in many cases the victim allows her/himself to be a victim.

The difference there again, is that it doesnt start with being a victim. It starts with a few isolated incidents where the (I will just use gender because it's easier) guy apologizes profusely saying they got upset and out of hand and it won't happen again. The girl forgives him because she loves him. Over time things escalate and get out of hand.

One of the strongest women I know ended up crumbling under an abusive relationship because she didn't know it was happening to her until it was too late. Just like the saying goes, throw a frog into boiling water and it'll jump out. Throw a frog into cold water and slowly heat it until boiling and you'll have cooked frog. A strong person can fight back from something they can see coming, but anyone can be destroyed by that one person they love. That's the danger of love.