11-23-2004, 08:51 AM
My parents allowed me to do whatever I wanted (to busy with my problem child brothers). They are lucky I wasn't that wild till about 15 years of age. Never got into any trouble with the law or school before that and very little trouble with the law afterwards (ofcourse, alot is legal over here), some of trouble with school but nothing out of the ordinary. I never had a time I had to be home but I always came home on time by myself. It made me very independant but also I have a big problem with authority. If someone tells me I 'have' to do something they better duck for cover. I HATE the have word. My moto, there are ALWAYS options.
Now if I would have parents who would go religious on me right now and tell me do do this and live my life like that I would go off on them like they have never seen before. How would they dare to tell me how to live my life and if they believe in a higher power so much than they must believe that God wants me to live my life the way I'm living it or he would have stept in. Luckily (christian) religion is a dieing lifestyle over here and religious people are a minority so there won't be society's pressure to hold yourself to those rules which makes it easier to let go of your parents lifestyle. Something thats probably harder when your whole community is religious and has certain expectations of you.
Now for something usefull. LSI, if you really have a problem with your parents lifestyle a good thing to get through to them is write a long letter to them. In that letter you can show how you feel and that you are an adult. Letters help in these kind of situations since I imagine in discussions with your parents they won't always let you say all that you want. In a letter you can put the whole story without being interupted. Just a thought
Now if I would have parents who would go religious on me right now and tell me do do this and live my life like that I would go off on them like they have never seen before. How would they dare to tell me how to live my life and if they believe in a higher power so much than they must believe that God wants me to live my life the way I'm living it or he would have stept in. Luckily (christian) religion is a dieing lifestyle over here and religious people are a minority so there won't be society's pressure to hold yourself to those rules which makes it easier to let go of your parents lifestyle. Something thats probably harder when your whole community is religious and has certain expectations of you.
Now for something usefull. LSI, if you really have a problem with your parents lifestyle a good thing to get through to them is write a long letter to them. In that letter you can show how you feel and that you are an adult. Letters help in these kind of situations since I imagine in discussions with your parents they won't always let you say all that you want. In a letter you can put the whole story without being interupted. Just a thought